The Cinderella Complex, Part I 02/01/15, Little girls identify with Disney characters like Cinderella and Snow White thinking they too are princesses. So, in their mind they make a list of mental and emotional unrealistic expectations that no woman finds in one man…ever unless of course he drinks too much soy milk. AND, in that case, you’d have problems in other areas and so goes an unhappy cycle. They will forever be disappointed no matter how great the lads are. AND, the princesses will end up walking around complaining out loud about their poor home habits or do that in their mind waiting to do it to their face when they’re home.
Why do you think Snow White and Cinderella stories ended either before or at the end of their wedding??? !!! Because I guarantee you the Prince forgot to take the garbage out more than once, left his underwear on the bathroom floor and it really pissed Cinderella off.
Teach your daughters well. Start with clicking your heels together as you say this to yourself…REALITY, REALITY, REALITY and teach them how to have a BALANCED, BALANCED, BALANCED outlook on life in choosing a sidekick for life.
Here is an example of how I mixed Santa Claus and reality for my son as a very young child. The school kids’ mothers were dumbfounded when I told them how I decided to handle it. They thought I was absolutely the worst mother in the world, but here, for you, I will put myself out there to be ridiculed in hopes someone out there has a sound mind who gets it.
We were living in Roanoke VA Christmas shopping with D’s grandparents at the mall thinking he can get his picture taken with Santa. As we walk by this huge line of parents and kids, children yelling, some crying we got in line. I showed D where Santa was and said he could tell him what he wanted for Christmas. He looked up at me and said, “No, mom. I don’t want to.” My return was let’s wait in line cause you may change your mind. I watched the much younger children cry as they were put in his lap, get their picture taken, Santa smiled at them saying a few words as he handed them some candy. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I looked at my son and said, “Pumpkin, you have more common sense then mommy some times.” We left the line, got an ice cream and went home. WHY? Simple.
All these years parents send confusing messages to their children. Here me out. We tell our children never ever ever take candy from strangers!!! Children think literally. Santa is a literal stranger!!! So what do we do? We literally take our children to a strange looking stranger and try to get them to sit on a stranger’s lap and take candy and tell him what they want him to bring them for Christmas, if they have been good!!! SOMEBODY TELL ME THEY GET IT!!!
At home I explained to D that all these cartoons, books about fairy tails like Peter Pan, Batman, you know are from a writer’s imagination. It’s the same with Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. But, as children it’s so much fun to enjoy your imagination in play. We still celebrate Christmas and Easter for the real reason, but children also get to enjoy it with added fun. I always tell you the truth.
He got ready for bed, ran around the house in his Superman pajamas (cape and all). At bedtime I explained how important it was that this information was for parents to tell their children, not children to tell other children because they need to hear it from their moms and dads because it may upset them.
Years later I asked him if all this info at such an early age hurt him and he laughed saying he’d rather hear the truth. Yes, I know each child is different and you must decide knowing their temperament and all on what, when and how to raise your own and not let others dictate to you. Make sure you have not raised them with YOUR fairytale thinking before you refuse to think through logical sound living or they will always be disappointed with the realities of life.
THE PRINCE, PART II
“At First Sight” FANTASY 08/27/15
Cinderella is sitting in the bleachers at a football game with her high school friends, when she noticed one of the football guys looking her way with a big ole grin on his face. Her face went flush, her heart started pounding while managing to stay composed enough to toss her long Cinderella blonde hair to the side and returns the smile only a pseudo débutante could muster.
The fantasy has begun and who knows how far and wide their minds will be spinning. “Ooh, I hope he’s at the dance tonight.”
The Prince, looking like Brad Pitt in his football uniform, gives the hot blonde in the bleachers his sparkly smile. Seeing she blushed, his thoughts rush to…ooh, baby, she’ll be putty in my hands. Eh, that’s three to check out tonight.
Yeah folks, it’s only one of the thousands of the “First Sight Fantasies” a woman will have through the years. The man’s thoughts are not at all like a woman’s.
My being female has required much reflection upon the great depth of knowledge through years of studying the inner workings of a man’s mind and actions. Why? So I could be completely honest In giving an accurate depiction of why men do and say what they do and say.
Well, I don’t know about you, but I feel a story coming on…
My friend told me how once she was cleaning the bathroom across the hall from her newly potty-trained son’s bedroom. Things had been quiet for awhile so she called to him asking what he was doing. Her son with all his simplistic pure hearted and honest response said, “Playing with my penis, mom. It’s Fun! I like it!”
WHAT MEN DO
Once they find their new found toy, they will never ever lose interest in it. EVER. In fact, some men are one dimensional and will live and die with their sword in their hand. Thankfully, there are good men out there who have more depth to them then a newly potty trained child. But the fact remains all men treasure their family jewels.
WHAT MEN SAY
Men shoot from the hip when you ask them a question. They answer with no guile and generally give no thought on how to deliver the response because they are not touchy feely like women.
Don’t Ask men questions that require sensitive thought processing when leaving house to play golf, work, see a football game or pretty much anything. Wisdom is required on when to ask certain questions.
Men are pretty simple. To keep them happy ~ feed, water and let them pretend to fertilize you as often as necessary because you need pretend fertilizing too. Don’t complain about things beyond his or your control. He may still leave his underwear on the bathroom floor, but hey, have you checked your Cosmetics’ drawers lately?
They’re still as much of a mystery as we are to them so jog, take a nap, whatever it takes~just get refreshed, stay thankful and remember that none of us are perfect.
But, don’t live with someone who’s destructive to you mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Draw lines in the sand where it really matters.